Mutual masturbation is as the name suggests—you and your partners masturbating alongside each other. This can include touching yourselves while watching your partners or touching each other at the same time.
It is like erotica, but better and real. Think of it as an “everybody wins” situation, and can be an incredibly erotic way to add something new to your sexual routine. It's all the masturbation goodness mixed with some experimentation. Plus, who doesn't like to pleasure themselves while witnessing your partners do the same?
How to Get Started?
Have a casual conversation with your partners before embarking upon a sexy masturbation sesh. People who are anxious about self-pleasuring or concerned with how they look during sex, this might seem a little overwhelming. Hence, having a conversation beforehand can be really helpful to set the mood and the context.
Always keep your lube handy to maximize pleasure and reduce friction induced tears or pain.
Always find a spot that is comfortable and environment that is desirable whenever trying something new to help your nervous system stay grounded.
Have safe words to terminate the activity if you feel uncomfortable or unwilling doing so.
The world of positions has so much to offer your and amp your mutual masturbation game. It's up to you and your partners on how you want to play this—more intimacy and touch, more teasing/anticipation and less touch, sensory deprivation, etc. It totally depends on what sails your desire boat. Nevertheless, here are a few positions you can try with your partners:
Get in Position
The world of positions has so much to offer and amp your mutual masturbation game. It's up to you and your partners on how you want to play this—more intimacy and touch, more teasing/anticipation and less touch, sensory deprivation, etc. It totally depends on what sails your desire boat. Nevertheless, here are a few positions you can try with your partners:
Lie or sit next to each other. You can decide how close or far. You can gradually face each other once you feel comfortable.
Get on top of your partner or flip over and lean your back against them.
Sit facing each other on either side of the sofa/bed/floor and watch each other without any physical touch.
As an alternative to the above position, sit facing each other with legs open and try syncing your breath, movements and/or rhythm with your partners.
Standing behind your partner is another way to stay close while enjoying yourselves.
If you are trying to do this via a video call, make sure you position yourselves and your device in a way that's the most comfortable for you and away from your hands and feet.
Add More Oomph
Think outside the box to take your mutual masturbation game from good to mind-blowing. Use this list to help build your sexy toolkit:
Introduce pleasure products like a new toy, blindfolds, sensations, etc. that pair well with your needs.
Use dirty talk, affirmations, and sounds to your rescue. Masturbation is all about sensations!
Get creative and tap into your fantasies by asking things like, “How should I touch myself?” or “What would you do to me if you were here?”
Double up and help your partners. Find small moments to make out and help your partner touch themselves.
Trying edging to prolong your pleasure session. Either using toys or your hands, try to bring yourself to the edge of climax while your partner does the same thing and stop/slow down before you orgasm.
Remember that self-pleasure can be a turn on for both of you. Try not to stress or entirely focus on what your partner is doing. Use it as a medium to draw focus on your body and work towards your pleasure.
At it's very core, mutual masturbation is about experimentation, communication and feeling safe being vulnerable hence, do not add the additional pressure of achieving an orgasm. It can be part of sex leading up to penetration, oral, etc. or it can just be an intimate activity between you and your partners.
This is also an excellent way to help your partners learn about your body and vice versa without feeling intimidated. When the foundation of your intimate occupations is learning through pleasure, what happens next becomes a smooth sailing transition.